Have you ever observed a child attempting to walk? It spends as much time on its butt as it does on its feet. After a number of falls, why doesn't it just quit and give up? Well, it doesn't classify those falls as failures. In its little mind, that is part of the process of walking. It has seen others do it, so it is determined to do it, too.
Two weeks later, it is able to stand, balance itself and take a step, without falling. Then it does it over and over again, until it is walking like a champ. At this stage it has no fear or knows no limitations. Whatever it wants to do, it will keep at it until it succeeds, or until it is redirected to something else.
If this child did not have fears at this early age, when did it acquire them?
Once a child starts to walk, it begins to discover interesting places and interesting things to check out. But some of these places and things can be harmful, so the parents or older sibling will intercede on its behalf, telling it NO each time it starts getting near something that isn't good for it.
As an example, our youngest grandson lives in Oregon, so we didn't get to see him until he was about four. I walked up to him and asked him, “Grandson, can I have some sugar?” His answer was, “NO.” I said “Grandson can I have a hug?” He said, “NO.” Finally, I asked his dad if he hears the word no a lot? He said all of the time. He has an older brother and two older sisters plus two parents, someone is telling him no all of the time.
They are telling him this out of love, but he doesn't know that, all he hears is NO, don't do that, NO, don't do that. For the next 12 to 15 months, can you imagine how many times he is going to hear that word? Compare that to him hearing YES.
And at what point do you think he might began to tell himself, no I can't do that?
I grew up in an environment where I was told no and other more unflattering words, and even now I am influenced by some of the things I was told way back then.
All of us have self-talk, as they call it. What are you telling yourself and what effect has that had, and in what ways is it impacting your life today?
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I wanted to start the New Year off right by reducing stress and by improving my flexibility, so I started practicing tai chi.
Why tai chi?
Originally developed for self-defense, tai chi has evolved into a graceful form of exercise. It involves a series of movements performed in a slow, focused manner and accompanied by deep breathing.
What is tai chi?
Tai chi is an ancient Chinese tradition that, today, is practiced as a graceful form of exercise. It involves a series of movements performed in a slow, focused manner and accompanied by deep breathing.
Tai chi, also called tai chi chaun, is a noncompetitive, self-paced system of gentle physical exercise and stretching. Each posture flows into the next without pause, ensuring that your body is in constant motion.
Tai chi has many different styles. Each style may subtly emphasize various tai chi principles and methods. There are variations within each style. Some styles may focus on health maintenance, while others may focus on the martial art aspect of tai chi.
Who can do tai chi?
Tai chi is low impact and puts minimal stress on muscles and joints, making it generally safe for all ages and fitness levels. In fact, because tai chi is a low impact exercise, it may be especially suitable if you’re an older adult who otherwise may not exercise.
You may also find tai chi appealing because it’s inexpensive and requires no special equipment. You can do tai chi anywhere, including indoors or outside. And you can do Tai chi alone or in a group.
Although tai chi is generally safe, women who are pregnant or people with joint problems, back pain, fractures, severe osteoporosis or a hernia should consult their health provider before trying Tai chi. Modification or avoidance of certain postures may be recommended.
When learned correctly and performed regularly, tai chi can be a positive part of an overall approach to improving your health. The benefits of tai chi may include:
Decreased stress, anxiety and depression
Improved aerobic capacity
Increased energy and stamina
Improved flexibility, balance and agility
Improved muscle strength and definition
Some evidence indicates that tai chi also may help:
Enhance quality of sleep
Enhance the immune system
Help lower blood pressure
Improve joint pain
Improve symptoms of congestive heart failure
Improve overall well-being
Reduce risk of falls in older adults
How to get started with tai chi?
Although you can rent or buy videos and books about tai chi, consider seeking guidance from a qualified tai chi instructor to gain the full benefits and learn proper techniques.
My goal is to make this year something really special and practicing tai chi is going to be a large part of it. Just writing about it has improved my enthusiasm for the exercise. I am looking forward to both my morning and afternoon sessions. I will let you know throughout the year how I am coming along, and I invite you to come along with me.
Hit me with a positive response if you are picking up what I am putting down.
Boomers, we have a new year before us. I am more excited about this New Year than I have ever been about any other. When we are making our New Year, we tend to consider what we are going to accomplish during the New Year, and there is nothing wrong with that.
But I am approaching this New Year with the attitude of, how many boomers can I help in some way this year? Og Mandino, in his materials, stresses we are most happy when we are doing things for others. So I am jolly about the possibility of being of service to as many people as I possibly can.
This is the last week of this old year. Has it been a wonderful year for you or just so so?
What are your goals for the New Year? How are you going to be different this time next year from what you are now?
I have great plans for this coming New Year. I just started reading Kevin Hall’s book, “Aspire, and he introduced me to a new word, Genshai (pronounced Genshy). It is sort of like charity but different from charity in this way.
One of the definitions given by Webster’s New World College Dictionary for charity is, a voluntary giving of money or help to those in need.
The Christmas Season is upon us. It is the time of year when we recognize the Savior’s birth. It is a time for reflecting on the Savior and the importance of his arrival in mortality.
It had been prophesied for thousands of years that he would be born into the world. So that there would be no mistake, it was foretold that he would be born of a virgin named Mary.
After all these years, we have lost the true meaning of his birth. We recognize it only as an overly materialized day where we give presents that are of questionable value, or of no value at all.
This is a law most people don’t know much about. It received a lot of air play a few years ago when Rhonda Barnes made the movie and wrote her book on the same topic.
This is a universal law, just like the law of gravity. It states you attract what you think about or what you feel strongly about or what you give your emotions to.
It has worked both ways in my life. During the 90’s I drove an old 86 Saab Turbo and fell in love with it. The only problem was, I didn’t have money to purchase another vehicle.
I would check the Iwana on a regular basis just to see if anything was listed. You see, this was a local paper that listed all sorts of things that were for sale, so I wanted to be kept abreast of what was available. This went on for many years.
Tiger Woods, who has not played a competitive round of golf in almost a year, was back on the course this weekend, and he played a really good round of golf, so they say.
Why would someone, who has won as many championships as he has won and made as much money as he has made, still play? It is not for the money. He already has more than he can ever spend.
No, something else is driving him. Although he has won many awards already, he is playing to his own music. There is something in golf, that he has not accomplished, that is driving him. Although he owns most of the records pertaining to golf, he is not satisfied with what he has accomplished.
So he is competing in a tournament down in the Bahamas and is holding his own.
I wish someone had asked me that question before I graduated from high school in 1967. When I graduated, I did not have a clue of what I wanted. I knew I wanted to change the world, but if you asked me what that meant, I could not tell you then and I cannot tell you now.
I know there are many of us in this same predicament. Getting out of school was the only thing on our mind. Now, 50 years later, this is the situation.
Many of us are looking at the remainder of our lives not really liking what we see and really don’t have any idea of what can be done to improve life in the future.
Og Mandino once said, “We are playing the game of life without knowing all of the rules.”
As children, we were taught to get a good job, you needed to go to college to get a good education to prepare us for happiness in our later years.
For many of us, this statement has proven not to be accurate. Many of us have gone on to colleges and did well, but that did not translate into true happiness later in life.
Almost all activities require cooperation from others, husband wife relationships in marriage, employer employee relations in the work place, parent children in the family, all of these relationships require getting the best from others, but how does one do that?
Dr. Robert Hartman stated that people on average hold back a significant portion of their cooperation and productivity until they feel validated as a human being. He stated that they hold back as much as 40% of their total capacity, and this is in non-adversarial relationships, such as those described above.
I have made it my goal in life to help every Baby Boomer finally become who they were meant to be.